What is love? We are not discussing the theories of what love should be. We are observing what we call love: “I love my wife.” I don’t know what you love, I doubt if you love anything at all. You know what it means to love? Is love pleasure? Is love jealousy? Can a man who is ambitious love?—he may sleep with his wife, beget a few children. And a man struggling to become an important person in politics or in the business world, or in the religious world where he wants to become a saint, where he wants to become desireless—all that is part of ambition, aggression, desire. Can a man who is competitive love? And you are all competitive, aren’t you?—better job, better position, better house, more noble ideas, more perfect images of yourself; you know all that you go through. And is that love? Can you love when you are going through all this tyranny, when you can dominate your wife or your husband or your children? When you are seeking power, is there a possibility of love? So in negating what is not love, there is love. You understand, sirs? You have to negate everything which is not love. Which is: no ambition, no competition, no aggression, no violence either in speech or in act or in thought. When you negate that which is not love, then you know what love is.
J. Krishnamurti/Mind in Meditation, pp 10-11
