Sorrow is not to be ended by the action of will. Do please understand this. You cannot get rid of it. Sorrow is something that has to be embraced, lived with, understood; one has to become intimate with sorrow. But you are not intimate with sorrow, are you? You may say, I know sorrow, but do you? Have you lived with it? Or, having felt sorrow, have you run away from it? Actually, you do not know sorrow. The running away is what you know. You know only the escape from sorrow.
Just as love is not a thing to be cultivated, to be acquired through discipline, so sorrow is not to be ended through any form of escape, through ceremonies or symbols, through the social work of the do-gooders, through nationalism, or through any of the ugly things that man has invented. Sorrow has to be understood, and understanding is not of time.
J. Krishnamurti/The Collected Works vol XI, p 287
